get your ex back

It’s a very emotional time for you both, no matter who broke up the relationship. Depending on the cause of the split, you could be feeling angry, sad, useless, undesirable, guilty, unloved, and so much more. And the trouble is that each emotion is negative, and has to be dealt with.

As you’re feeling vulnerable, lots of unwanted thoughts will crowd your mind, and the way you think affects the way you feel. If you’re not careful, you can get trapped in a vicious circle of negativity and anger which makes you feel despondent.

How can you get your ex back again? Well, you need to give each other space. Regardless of the reasons you split, it’s only by being apart that you will be able to see things from a different perspective. If there is a third person involved, or there has been, it is only by giving each other space that you can all decide what it is that you want.

It’s important to remember though, that even if you feel like letting all of your anger and resentment out on your partner, it isn’t going to help much. If you become vicious, spiteful and resentful, it will only drive your partner further away. On the other hand, if you’re too clingy, keep saying you’re sorry, and keep crying and getting distraught, that isn’t going to work either. Even if you feel that you want and need his arms wrapped around you again, and for him to tell you that everything is going to be OK and that he loves you and is sorry for all the hurt that’s been caused, try not to do it.

As harsh as it sounds, a partner can get fed up with this clingy attitude and will want to get further away. The methods that you could try do sound the complete opposite to what you think would work, but it’s worth giving them a try. Act as normally as you can. I know it’s hard, but if your ex can see that you’re rational and having a normal life without him, he may start to wonder what you’re doing.

If he doesn’t hear from you, he could start to wonder how you are and how you’re coping. He might want to ring you to find out what you’ve been up to. If he left you, he might start feeling remorse, and realise that he wants to be with you after all. If you pester him, he’ll turn away, but give him space and he’ll realise what he’s missing.

It’s better to get back together after a period apart rather than just a short time because then you’ve had time to analyze your relationship and to see what was going wrong between you. By talking through the problems you had, you’ll be able to re-act differently to anything that might crop up in the future and that can help you to avoid any future problems you might have come across, had you rushed back together.

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Stella Coles is a writer, an internet marketer and artist living on the Isle of Wight. She spends much of her time researching and is interested in relationships, and as a dog-lover, dog psychology.

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